Not Sorry

I recently, I attended a Women’s Leadership program where I was a participant in the learning session and a coach in a small group working session. One of the speakers in the learning session shared a very short video in which women were constantly saying, “I’m sorry” when someone almost walked into them, when asking a question in a meeting and when asking for help with a task. While I don't believe it's just women who find themselves saying "sorry" for things, the session was eye opening.

I never really paid attention to how often I personally say I am sorry in a given day. Now there are times when saying sorry isn’t a bad thing. In fact sometime, self-deprecating humor or apologizing can be a way to ease into a conversation or discussion.

Take a recent board meeting. I had a question that in my opinion I felt maybe I should know. I leaned over to another board member and said “I’m sorry, this is probably
a stupid question…” Would you look at that? In one short sentence I not only apologized for a legitimate question I needed answered but the listener now has a tainted viewpoint of the question…that it will be stupid.

Changing the wording can be helpful. In fact, I caught myself in the moment and told him that it wasn’t a stupid question but rather question I still had not found an answer for.

Take a look at how often you are saying "sorry." Can you change what you say? Just today, I found myself and another person trying to get into the same doorway. I would normally say, “I’m sorry,” but today I said, "please go ahead." Maybe it is possible to teach an old dog new tricks!?!

Interested in seeing the short video that was played at the event I mentioned? Check it out here:

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Lisa Hayes

Founder of Through-The-Hayes, Lisa believes that career growth should be exciting, rewarding, & most of all, easy. Her passion & expertise are focused on guiding individuals to be their best so they are ready to take on any professional challenge they face.
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